“There is no such thing as a relationship without challenges. One of the critical things is knowing that you are committed no t matter what. Commitment creates safety in knowing that life will continue even while you struggle.” This quote by Stephen Mizell is from his article ‘Our Greatest Struggle’. In so many ways I can relate to what he shares, as Rick and I have experienced many challenges in our 25.5 years of marriage and raising ‘his and her’ children. What was the one thing that has kept us together this long, despite all of our challenges? It’s commitment!
During our darkest days, when I was so ready to walk away because each day was so difficult to get through, it was the commitment that I made to not only Rick but to our 6 daughters as well that helped me to stay and do the work I needed to do to help our marriage succeed.
Even though we have a wonderful marriage and enjoy spending as much time together as possible, little volcanoes still explode from time to time and pour down lava on our relationship. As Stephen said, the critical part of your relationship is ‘knowing that you are committed’ to one another and to your marriage. In being truly committed there is a feeling of safety as the lava begins to pour. We know that somehow we will move past this difficulty and feel the love and joy of our relationship once again.
The lesson in experiencing struggles is to realize just how wonderful life really is when you have successfully navigated beyond them. Your love and the bond between the two of you are strengthened in ways that only these struggles can create. Be grateful for each exploding volcano. Learn how to navigate through them and notice how much easier it is because you know that you are both committed to each other.
You can read Stephen Mizell’s entire article here https://stephenmizell.com/our-greatest-struggle/
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